I am watching "Heroes" right now. And I don't mean that as in currently, this very second, I am watching "Heroes" on the television. I mean that, due to a deal that I made with a friend of mine, I am starting at Season 1 and working my way through. I never watch TV series. I have started, like, three of them, and then life gets busy and after missing two weeks worth of episodes, I lose the story line completely and give up. But let me just say that I am a huge fan of "Heroes" so far, four episodes in.
The reason I am mentioning this is because I noticed a reaction or two of mine somewhere in episode 3 and episode 4. There were relationship scenes, as we'll call them, and my gut reaction was to get frustrated, slightly disgusted, very broken for the characters, and want to take each of the characters and shake them and tell them that they did not need to be doing what they were doing. And really, looking back, I've had this reaction to movie relationships for a while now. I didn't use to be like this. I used to watch movies and hope that there would be some good romance scenes. Now, the lines that I hear that would've made me swoon are making me gag and consider the boy a dog, and the kisses that would've made me envious are making me sad because there is no commitment involved, and the bedroom scenes just make me frustrated because there are no rings. This change in mindset isn't recent, but it just hit me today how deep the shift was in me. And I think that the change in my mindset has come from realizing more fully one simple fact:
This is not how God intended for relationships to be.
It breaks my heart to see girls falling for lines, to see people passing around their heart like dollar store candy, to see people willingly enter rebound relationships. I used to be one of those people. But God is so, so, so, so, so much better. He CREATED romance. He is the ultimate pursuer, He knows how to win my heart more than anyone ever will know, and He loves me more purely than anyone ever will. People chase these empty relationships, but they're chasing the wrong thing. In fact, they don't even have to chase at all. God is chasing them. And it makes me melt to think about how perfect He is. He wants to be the man I gossip to my friends about. He wants to be the special someone I spending hours thinking of. He wants to talk to me about every hurt, every joy, every concern. He won't ever break my heart. He won't make me cry from hurt, but will be there for me when I do. He will stand up for me when others put me down. He is never too busy for me. He is jealous for my time and longs to talk to me more. He never plays hard to get and wants me to stop doing it at times. He says things that take my breath away. He is stronger than any man will ever be, and He'll always tend to what I need. He knows exactly what makes my heart skip.
Why on earth would I choose anyone besides Him?
And I know that, someday, He'll bring a man along. Yes, I am admitting right now that my argument regarding me being single forever and becoming a nun is completely false. =P But if he is letting himself be romanced by God (or whatever it is guys call it when someone wins their hearts) and I'm being completely captivated by God, then we're going to respect eachother and love eachother because we respect and love God.
I don't know... I just want to take every girl in the world who is letting herself be hurt and say "Stop it! You're worth so much more, and there is a God out there that is desperate to take your heart! Let Him!" I want to take every guy aside and say, "You have no business doing anything until God shows you what a man is." And I want to take every person in an unhealthy relationship and push them into a freaking ocean of God. Then maybe "Heroes" won't make me frustrated.
The reason I am mentioning this is because I noticed a reaction or two of mine somewhere in episode 3 and episode 4. There were relationship scenes, as we'll call them, and my gut reaction was to get frustrated, slightly disgusted, very broken for the characters, and want to take each of the characters and shake them and tell them that they did not need to be doing what they were doing. And really, looking back, I've had this reaction to movie relationships for a while now. I didn't use to be like this. I used to watch movies and hope that there would be some good romance scenes. Now, the lines that I hear that would've made me swoon are making me gag and consider the boy a dog, and the kisses that would've made me envious are making me sad because there is no commitment involved, and the bedroom scenes just make me frustrated because there are no rings. This change in mindset isn't recent, but it just hit me today how deep the shift was in me. And I think that the change in my mindset has come from realizing more fully one simple fact:
This is not how God intended for relationships to be.
It breaks my heart to see girls falling for lines, to see people passing around their heart like dollar store candy, to see people willingly enter rebound relationships. I used to be one of those people. But God is so, so, so, so, so much better. He CREATED romance. He is the ultimate pursuer, He knows how to win my heart more than anyone ever will know, and He loves me more purely than anyone ever will. People chase these empty relationships, but they're chasing the wrong thing. In fact, they don't even have to chase at all. God is chasing them. And it makes me melt to think about how perfect He is. He wants to be the man I gossip to my friends about. He wants to be the special someone I spending hours thinking of. He wants to talk to me about every hurt, every joy, every concern. He won't ever break my heart. He won't make me cry from hurt, but will be there for me when I do. He will stand up for me when others put me down. He is never too busy for me. He is jealous for my time and longs to talk to me more. He never plays hard to get and wants me to stop doing it at times. He says things that take my breath away. He is stronger than any man will ever be, and He'll always tend to what I need. He knows exactly what makes my heart skip.
Why on earth would I choose anyone besides Him?
And I know that, someday, He'll bring a man along. Yes, I am admitting right now that my argument regarding me being single forever and becoming a nun is completely false. =P But if he is letting himself be romanced by God (or whatever it is guys call it when someone wins their hearts) and I'm being completely captivated by God, then we're going to respect eachother and love eachother because we respect and love God.
I don't know... I just want to take every girl in the world who is letting herself be hurt and say "Stop it! You're worth so much more, and there is a God out there that is desperate to take your heart! Let Him!" I want to take every guy aside and say, "You have no business doing anything until God shows you what a man is." And I want to take every person in an unhealthy relationship and push them into a freaking ocean of God. Then maybe "Heroes" won't make me frustrated.
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